Life Perceived by Me

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I don’t believe its your place….

I know its been a while since I’ve written any kind of post, but today I have something to write about.

A few days ago I had a woman decide it was her place to make a statement, a demand toward my choice of discipline of my two year old. I am fully aware that this is a touchy controversial subject. I know that some are extreme in both ways but this is how I choose to raise my baby….

We use corporal punishment, when needed, or rather if needed and very sparingly. Not to mention in no way do we use it where we leave marks.

That being said this is what happened. Our daughter, whom is two years old, decided to test me as she was walking out the door of the Kaiser Clinic in Napa, California. Normally the 1-2-3 tactic works without fail but occasionally it doesn’t. Therefore in this instance I snatched her up by the arm, gently but with a quick demanding action. Followed with the words “You need to come when you are called.” and a light swat on the behind to drive the point home. She didn’t cry, she didn’t even protest aside from a unhappy facial expression.

Our interaction apparently angered an older woman sitting on a bench. She commanded “Don’t you hit that child.” I didn’t react, while my mother did to my response of “she’s entitled to her opinion.” I kept my speed and continued to walk to our car. Inside I wanted to tell her to shove it. I didn’t. It wouldn’t have helped the situation. It would have made me appear no more intelligent then then a child. Doesn’t change how much I wanted to react.

I’ve run into this before when Jaciel was small and I smacked her hand teaching her not to pull hair. This woman completely panicked, claiming that I was beating my child and committing a crime of severe abuse. I clearly just replied telling her to feel free to call Child Protective Services offering my Name, Phone number and Address. I told her it was her duty to call in the authorities if she felt my child was ┬áin any danger.

I don’t want to discourage people to call upon the authorities when a child is truly in danger but please be aware the difference between abuse and parenting. Parenting where the child has structure, consequences to the actions they take. Everyone’s tactic is different and be sure where your place is, and honestly unless the child in question seriously in danger but you have worries then call CPS but be sure to think of the impact it will have on the family in question.

I am sure this will bring some unsavory comments, I will moderate them looking for foul language but if they are clear of nasty, accusatory words I will allow them to be posted. Everyone is entitled to there opinion and parenting style. Keep in mind there is a huge difference between a debate, and an argument. I will not argue with you regarding how we decide to bring up our children. THANK YOU.



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